Title: You Be Mother
My
Rating: πππππ
Book Description:
What do you do, when you find the perfect family, and it's
not yours? A charming, funny and irresistible novel about families, friendship
and tiny little white lies.
The only thing Abi ever wanted was a proper family. So when she falls pregnant by an Australian exchange student in London, she cannot pack up her old life in Croydon fast enough, to start all over in Sydney and make her own family. It is not until she arrives, with three-week-old Jude in tow, that Abi realises Stu is not quite ready to be a father after all. And he is the only person she knows in this hot, dazzling, confusing city, where the job of making friends is turning out to be harder than she thought. That is, until she meets Phyllida, her wealthy, charming, imperious older neighbour, and they become almost like mother and daughter. If only Abi had not told Phil that teeny tiny small lie, the very first day they met…
The only thing Abi ever wanted was a proper family. So when she falls pregnant by an Australian exchange student in London, she cannot pack up her old life in Croydon fast enough, to start all over in Sydney and make her own family. It is not until she arrives, with three-week-old Jude in tow, that Abi realises Stu is not quite ready to be a father after all. And he is the only person she knows in this hot, dazzling, confusing city, where the job of making friends is turning out to be harder than she thought. That is, until she meets Phyllida, her wealthy, charming, imperious older neighbour, and they become almost like mother and daughter. If only Abi had not told Phil that teeny tiny small lie, the very first day they met…
My musings:
You Be Mother is a delightful, bittersweet book that left a
certain warm and fuzzy feeling in its wake long after I finished reading it. There
are too few of these types of books around, where you get sucked so deeply into
the story that you wish it would never end. But to call it just a feel-good
book would be doing it an injustice, because it is so much more than that. In
Abi and Phil, Mason has created unforgettable characters that I would love to
meet down at the local coffee shop for a cuppa and a chat. I was so reluctant
to let them go when the book ended, feeling like I was losing lifelong friends!
I also admit shedding a few tears, because when I say bitter-sweet, I mean that
the book tackles a few of life’s difficult issues, like death, abandonment,
loneliness and the different dynamics found in families, including this most
precious and fraught relationship of all, the mother-daughter bond.
Abi, a young mother from Croydon, arrives with her small
baby in Sydney, to be reunited with Stu, her son’s father, and start a new
life. Settling in Cremorne, in a small flat owned by Stu’ parents, Abi soon
finds that Stu may not be ready yet to play happy families as he continues to
lead his bachelor life, leaving her and baby Jude alone for long periods of
time whilst he studies and meets his mates at the pub until the early morning
hours. She tries to overcome her loneliness by taking Jude for long walks in
the pram. It is during one of those walks that she stumbles across the Cremorne
ocean pool, and meets Phyllida Woolnough, who turns out to be her neighbour,
living in a stately home next door to the apartment block. Phil is also battling
with loneliness after the recent death of her husband, and all her grown- up
children having flown the nest to live overseas. Soon Abi and Phil strike up an
unusual friendship, each filling a need in the other– Phil serving as a mother
substitute for Abi, and Abi and Jude seamlessly slipping into the gap Phil’s
children have left behind. But blood is thicker than water – or is it? As
Phil’s children get involved, Abi and Phil’s friendship is bound to get a lot more
complicated ...
Having emigrated myself at an early age and raising my
babies without the help of family, far away from my old life, I really related
to Abi. I remember walking for hours with my first-born asleep in the pram,
just to get out of the house and talk to other grown-up people. We also created
our own extended “family” from older friends who filled the grandparent gap for
my children. Lucky for me, I had a partner who was very involved with his kids,
and some great friends, who soon quelled the loneliness. But reading about Abi
brought back so many memories of that time, and I felt like giving her a huge
bear hug of the sort I often craved myself when crying for my mother!
Phyllida Woolnough, Phil for short, was a delightful
character and reminded me of someone I know in real life (though I can never
reveal who). She is, as she states herself “in the dusty flute stage of life”
and was so delightfully eccentric that there were many laugh-out loud moments
as she shared her wry observations and ideas with the reader. Phil is a bit of
a mercurial character, warm and welcoming one minute and somewhat remote and
cold the next. In her postscript, Mason calls Phil “the pleasure of my life to
write” and states that she cannot believe Phil doesn’t really exist. Yes, I
felt exactly the same. In fact, all characters, the Woolnough children
included, seemed so real to me they could have stepped out of the pages of the
book, seamlessly inserting themselves into reality. Kudos to the author for
creating such a believable “alternative truth” that I am still grieving for the
characters now that the last page has been turned.
Summary:
I loved You Be Mother and found it to be a delightful read that took me off to another world and made me look forward to the hours I could spend reading. Sometime laugh-out-loud funny, other times sad, this was a warm, insightful, bittersweet and very poignant book about families that I cannot recommend highly enough. I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of it!
Thank
you to Netgalley and HarperCollins Australia for the free electronic copy of this novel and
for giving me the opportunity to provide an honest review.